While listening to Tony Robbins, and he mentioned something that really struck me that I felt compelled to share with you. Which of your parents love did you crave the most? Who did you have to be in order to get that love? I took these two questions to heart and really reflected on them, coming up with some interesting internal beliefs I had hidden in my subconscious. I encourage you to ask yourself these questions!
Spending your life living someone else’s is a waste of your time! Figure out what the day-to-day of what you think you want to do is really like, and see if you enjoy it. We all have the fantasy of what we want, but you can’t think of just the fantasy for this one. The more you do the day to day, and the more you like it, the closer you are to knowing if it’s what you truly want for your life.
Why do we set goals? To feel connected and to experience deeper levels of love and joy. When we don’t hit our goals, we get depressed and frustrated with ourselves. This begs the question: because we don’t achieve a goal, does this mean we no longer feel connection or joy and love? Not at all! It IS possible to feel these without achieving goals. Surrender to the process, and reframe your mindset so that in all you do, you are experiencing love, joy, and connection.
On a recent podcast interview, I asked my guest, Strauss Zelnick, how he does it all and his response was unbelievably helpful. Strauss separates things into four or five mental buckets: family, fitness, business, mentoring, and charity. If something comes up that doesn’t go into one of his buckets, Strauss doesn’t do it because he knows it isn’t a big enough priority for him. What’s your takeaway from this? What are your four to five buckets?
“How do you get it all done?” I get this question often, and my answer is always the same: I set myself up to win. I do this by choosing one goal I want to accomplish over a ninety day period. Just one! With that goal, each day I take two to three predetermined actions that will take me just ten minutes each to do, and within ninety days that goal is accomplished!
On a recent podcast episode, Chip Conley brought it to my attention that there is so much more happening within our midlife ages than ever before. In 1900, the average longevity was 47 years old, but by 2000 is was 77 years old– midlife crisis was coined in the 60’s because it didn’t exist before! We have to start changing our mindset around the midlife crisis because research is showing that we are getting happier as we are getting older. If you want to hear more about my thoughts on this, listen to Fridate episode 112.