008: Predicting Divorce With Amazing Accuracy | The Robb Review
Today’s Topic: How to Avoid Divorce
John Gottman can predict, with 99.9% accuracy, if a couple will get divorced by spending just two minutes with them.
How does he know?
Gottman knows to look for The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:
- Criticism – When you start being critical about your partner.
- Contempt – Criticism can escalate into contempt; the eye roll personified.
- Defensiveness – If you don’t repair that contempt, defensiveness will grow.
- Stonewalling – Finally, you will essentially become numb to your partner’s reactions and when you communicate to them. According to Gottman’s research, if you get to this point, you have a 99.9% chance of divorce in the next two years.
Okay, now that you know what the Four Horsemen are, and knowing is half the battle after all, are you dealing with any of them?
If you are, I’ve found that these strategies have really improved my relationship:
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