014: Using A Push Goal as a Domino to Knock Down Your Other Goals | The Robb Review
Today’s Topic: How to choose your goals & achieve them
Today you’ll learn what a push goal is, how selecting three 10-minute, daily actions will help you achieve your goal, and the exact system that I use to achieve my goals.
What is a Push Goal?
If you accomplish a push goal, it will knock down all of your other goals – like the first domino in a line.
For example: If your list of goals includes putting a down payment on a house and buying a new car, your push goal might be making $150,000 in a year because it would allow you to accomplish both of those goals.
What daily actions will help you accomplish your push goal?
Start by brainstorming every possible thing you could do to accomplish your goal. Make an exhaustive list of every single thing you can think of, and leave no stones unturned.
If you start to get stumped, ask yourself questions: What would this look like if it were easy? Fun? Elegant? Anything you can do, any prompts you can give yourself, to get that data out.
After you are done brainstorming, identify three actions from the list that will take 10 minutes or less to accomplish. Add those three actions to the top of your planner or to-do list.
If you do those three actions every single day, it will transform your life (and probably in less time than you expect).
Having goals isn’t enough – you have to have a system in place to ensure they are accomplished.
You can do as I described above – putting the actions in your planner – or you can take it to the next level: Chalene Johnson’s SmartLife™ PUSH Journal. This is what I use, and it makes a tremendous difference.
011: Using The Cycle Of Growth To Change Any Habit | The Robb Review
Today’s Topic: How to change any habit
Today I’m going to discuss the 4 stages of the Cycle of Growth:
Inception – Think New Year’s Day, you’ve just made a resolution, and you’re excited about changing… but you don’t really know what you’re up against.
Deception – A few days in, shit starts to get real. Incorporating your new habit is becoming more difficult, the excitement is waning, and you’re running up against physical or psychological friction. Your unconscious might try to keep you safe by minimizing risks.
Transformation – If you power through the stage of deception, you will start to see positive changes. But you also see the reality of your growing habit, and it’s not a habit yet, so you still have to actively think about incorporating this activity into your life.
Identity – After you’ve gone through this process for weeks and weeks, you don’t have to think about incorporating this new activity anymore – you just do it.
All change goes through this process. You just have to know where you are on the spectrum and work through those stages.
008: Predicting Divorce With Amazing Accuracy | The Robb Review
Today’s Topic: How to Avoid Divorce
John Gottman can predict, with 99.9% accuracy, if a couple will get divorced by spending just two minutes with them.
How does he know?
Gottman knows to look for The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:
Criticism – When you start being critical about your partner.
Contempt – Criticism can escalate into contempt; the eye roll personified.
Defensiveness – If you don’t repair that contempt, defensiveness will grow.
Stonewalling – Finally, you will essentially become numb to your partner’s reactions and when you communicate to them. According to Gottman’s research, if you get to this point, you have a 99.9% chance of divorce in the next two years.
Okay, now that you know what the Four Horsemen are, and knowing is half the battle after all, are you dealing with any of them?
If you are, I’ve found that these strategies have really improved my relationship:
When you’re in criticism, try to complain without blaming (which isn’t easy to do!)
When you feel contempt, you want to build a culture of appreciation. So when you start rolling your eyes, instead choose to appreciate everything that you love about your partner.
If you are defensive, you want to take responsibility for it.
When you find yourself stonewalling, take a break – give yourself 20 minutes and
Resources:
Learn more from The Gottman Institute: Gottman.com
005: The One Thing I Do Every Morning To Create Clarity | The Robb Review
Welcome to the first Robb Review! Every Wednesday, I’ll share something that I’m experimenting with in my personal life or my business life, and then I’ll give you the tips, tricks, and strategies that I’ve learned.
Today’s Topic: The Morning Pages
Morning Pages is a process created by Julia Cameron. Although it was originally intended to help with writer’s block, the practice can help anyone gain clarity.
The process is simple: as soon as you get up (and pour your morning beverage), just grab some paper and start writing. Whatever you’re thinking about – good or bad, silly or serious – write it down, and keep writing until you fill up three pages.
The goal is to wipe the slate clean, clear your cache, and generally shake the dust out of the carpet that is your brain.
I try to do this Monday through Friday, and when I don’t, I really notice the difference. It’s the best, most reliable way I know to start your day with a clear head.
If you get stuck, or you are mulling over a problem, write these three questions at the top of the page:
What would it look like if it were easy?
What would it look like if it were fun?
What would it look like if it were elegant?
Those three prompts will help you look at whatever you are writing about from three entirely different perspectives.
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